expectations and what they do to you

so a random post on expectations, because im too full from dinner to study, the sensation in my stomach is just too distracting and feel too good, btw i finally hit the big 60kg, *bows* im gonna continue till i hit 65, hopefully before my big 18!

So, we all know, expectation on our side, the more u have the more dissapointed u will be when it doesnt go your way, but have u ever considered it the other way?

i feel that, there is like two ways, your expectations on something have a negative external impact in addtion to the disappointment u will feel. from my experience, its stress, stress to meet that expectation of that other people, what economist call, a negative externalities

i've come across a few ways to handle it, one is of course to ignore, but how easy is that? next is to DEAL with it, we all live in stressful conditions and we should learn to handle it. and the last one, call me weak willed or a quitter but i personally like this the best, lowering the expectations.

Expectation comes from trust, for example, the more i trust your capability , the higher the expectation i have of your work or the more work i will entrust you with. So if u break the trust or lower the level for trust. Those taking economics, think supply and demand curve, if i lower my "supply of trust", it costs u more "disappointment" to expect that much of me, thus, making a best decision of self interest, u decide not to expect too much of me.

Then it goes back to risk appitite, how much are u willing to put on the line? Recently, i have a troubled friend, who realised that he had to make a choice, to follow his dreams, risking disappointing his family who constantly demands a lot out of him. Or to put that dream aside and lead a mundane life, risk-free. But he left so much things out of the equation: passion, support, youth, so much more! I hope u dont mind me blogging about this, but take a step back and think, maybe things really wouldnt be as hard as it is.

Still, i could be wrong, afterall im not in his shoes. And his parents could really have live long enough to experience that this dream of him could destory him.

Maybe we are all over analyzing things, so to put it simply, when it comes to choice, not of life and death, but regret you did never tried or regret u tried and wasted resources on it. if the costs are bearable, im sure no one would want to regret that they never tried.

So before your smart brain tries to protect you and leads u too your 'goal'. y not ask the brain nicely to pause for a moment, and give the heart a chance to voice its opinion?

-Leon.L